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Twiford Funeral Home announces its future location

July 7, 2010

David H. Twiford, owner of Twiford Funeral Homes, LLC, Cemeteries, and Crematorium is pleased to announce the future location of a new facility which will be located in Poplar Branch, NC, adjacent to its perpetual care cemetery, Laurel Memorial Gardens Cemetery. The funeral home will be a state of the art facility, having a professional operating/embalming room, a formal chapel, and viewing/visitation suites to provide the residents of Currituck County and the northern end of Dare County a more centrally located facility for funerals and visitations. The new funeral home will be the only one in the Albemarle and Outer Banks area of North Carolina that will be a cemetery/funeral home combination, which will provide convenience by having everything at one location, as well as being able to offer additional benefits to the families being served by Twiford Funeral Homes. Twiford states the grand opening is targeted for mid 2011. Twiford Funeral Homes, LLC, Cemeteries and Crematorium is a local family owned business that has served the area communities since 1933 with four funeral homes, two cemeteries and a crematory.

Twiford Funeral Homes Launches New Website

David Twiford, owner of Twiford Funeral Homes has just launched his new website. The new, innovative website is user friendly and is designed with the goal of the Northeastern North Carolina community to have quick access to funeral service information and allow the family and friends to share in the grieving process by adding condolences and tributes and watching memorial tribute videos and even a video replay of the funeral service if the family wishes to.

https://www.twifordfh.com

As David Twiford added, “Our new website takes our business to the next level in keeping up with the latest online resources for our community. Part of this change is that our new website has put the power of Google to allow members of the community to instantly search for funeral information of a recently deceased friend or relative. Plus there are many other tools to for the public including our online grief video series.”

Personalizing a Funeral Service

A funeral can and should be as unique as the life that is being celebrated. Don’t feel that you have to have a cookie cutter type of service or that your ideas for a special ceremony are foolish.

You shouldn’t feel pressured or rushed into making a decision. We want to help you make
the arrangements that you want.

Personalizing a funeral or memorial service can be very therapeutic–it gives you and your family something to concentrate on as you relive memories. It’s also welcomed by family and friends attending a visitation or service because it gets them involved and provides a topic of conversation when they might otherwise not know what to say. We offer many ways to personalize a service.

Ask questions and make suggestions; we want to assist you in any way we can to ensure that your loved one is memorialized in a meaningful way.

Coping Through the Holidays After Losing a Loved One

Halloween barely passes before stores stock their shelves with holiday decorations. Christmas carols echo through shopping malls, and the first of the holiday commercials hits the airwaves. If you’ve lost a loved one, these can be stark reminders that the holidays won’t be the same.

Whether your loved one died recently or decades ago, the holidays bring forth powerful memories that may trigger your grief. If the person died on or near a holiday, the two events are forever linked and may be particularly painful, especially if you have unresolved feelings about the lost relationship.

When trying to cope with grief, it’s important to understand that grief is cumulative. We don’t experience a loss, move through predetermined emotional stages, then emerge on the other side.

This holiday season, if the first Christmas card you open or the first “Happy Hanukkah!” you hear starts to bring on sadness, use that opportunity to work through your feelings. Don’t just ignore those feelings. Here are some tips to help you cope.

DO:

  • Expect to have some pain. When the feelings come, let them.
  • Accept a few invitations to be with close family or friends. Choose the ones that sound most appealing at the time and avoid the ones that feel more like obligation.
  • Talk about your feelings. Let people know if you’re having a tough day.
  • Incorporate your loved one into the holidays:
  • Share your favorite stories over dinner.
  • Make a toast or light a candle in remembrance.
  • Make a donation in his or her name.
  • Help others:
    • Take a meal to a homebound couple.
    • Volunteer in a shelter or soup kitchen.
    • “Adopt” a family to buy presents or food for.
  • Modify or make new traditions if it feels right. Just remember to include others who are grieving, especially children, in the decision.
  • If the idea of holiday shopping overwhelms you, buy gifts online or through catalogs.
  • Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
  • Prepare yourself for January. Sometimes the aftermath of the holidays can bring more sadness than the holidays themselves.

DON’T:

  • Don’t hide your feelings from children in an effort to be strong for them or protect them. You’ll only be teaching them to deny their own feelings.
  • Don’t isolate yourself. Although you may not feel much like celebrating, accept a few invitations.
  • Don’t accept every invitation or throw yourself into work in an effort to keep busy. It may only add more stress.
  • Don’t expect to go through defined stages of grief. Every person is different and every relationship is unique.
  • Don’t act as if your loved one never lived.
  • Don’t be afraid to cry. Crying is like the valve on a pressure cooker. It lets the steam out.

If someone you know is grieving:

  • Encourage him or her to talk about their feelings. Listen to them. 98 percent of people who have recently lost someone want to talk about the person who died.
  • Let them cry.
  • Don’t pretend their loved one didn’t die – it’s okay to say the deceased’s name.
  • Don’t say things like:
    • “At least he’s not suffering anymore”
    • “She’s in a better place.”
    • “I know you’ll miss him.”
    • “I know how you feel.”

Resources:

Grief Recovery Institute®
www.grief-recovery.com
(818) 907-9600
Holiday Hotline: (800) 445-4808

Fernside
www.fernside.org
(513) 841-1012

National Funeral Directors Association
www.nfda.org
(800) 228-6332 or (262) 789-1880

GriefNet.org
www.griefnet.org

Books:

  • “The Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce and Other Losses” by John W. James and Russell Friedman
  • “I’m Grieving As Fast As I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal” by Linda Sones Feinberg
  • “Gone but Not Lost: Grieving the Death of a Child” by David W. Wiersbe
  • “Remembering With Love: Messages of Hope for the First Year of Grieving and Beyond” by Elizabeth Levang, Sherokee Ilse
  • “Life Is Goodbye, Life Is Hello: Grieving Well Through All Kinds of Loss” by Alla Renee Bozarth, et al.
  • “When Your Friend Is Grieving: Building a Bridge of Love” by Paula D’Arcy
  • “How Can I Help?: How to Support Someone Who Is Grieving” by June Cerza Kolf
  • “Healing Your Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas” by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
  • “Helping Your Grieving Heart for Teens” by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
  • “The Grieving Teen: A Guide for Teenagers and Their Friends” by Helen Fitzgerald
  • “When Children Grieve” by John W. James and Russell Friedman with Dr. Leslie Landon Matthews
  • “The Grieving Child: A Parent’s Guide” by Helen Fitzgerald, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
  • “35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child” by The Dougy Center for Grieving Children
  • “Nobody’s Child Anymore: Grieving, Caring and Comforting When Parents Die” by Barbara Bartocci

Consider Family in Cremation

Those who say–whether seriously or in jest–“Just cremate me and throw me out!” don’t realize the burden this places on family members. Direct disposal of cremated remains without funerals or memorialization of any kind can cause serious emotional problems for survivors.

An executive of the Forum for Death Education tells of one patient under therapy as a result of scattering the cremated remains of a loved one. She had no focal point for her grief until he suggested she obtain a niche at a local mausoleum and place some memento of the loved one within.

In day-to-day contact with bereaved families, many cemetarians have noticed signs of severe emotional stress among the survivors in instances of cremation without memorialization and without funerals.

In some cases, such problems may take the form of delayed reaction many months later and are more apt to come to the attention of the medical community or clinical psychologists than to the layman or the general public.

Many psychiatrists feel that the funeral serves a very real need for the survivors. One of them stated that the primary purpose of the funeral is to fulfill the need for grieving for the living and that this need goes unfulfilled for many in our culture.

The result, in many cases, is that months or years later people require psychiatric treatment for severe depression.

In suffering a loss, the traditional rites of passage and memorialization can be beneficial in helping individuals pass through the stages of grief.

When the practice of cremation is accomplished with human dignity and recognition, it will:

  • help assuage grief
  • alleviate guilt
  • contribute to emotional stability
  • create peace of mind
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Twiford Funeral Home announces its future location

July 7, 2010

David H. Twiford, owner of Twiford Funeral Homes, LLC, Cemeteries, and Crematorium is pleased to announce the future location of a new facility which will be located in Poplar Branch, NC, adjacent to its perpetual care cemetery, Laurel Memorial Gardens Cemetery. The funeral home will be a state of the art facility, having a professional operating/embalming room, a formal chapel, and viewing/visitation suites to provide the residents of Currituck County and the northern end of Dare County a more centrally located facility for funerals and visitations. The new funeral home will be the only one in the Albemarle and Outer Banks area of North Carolina that will be a cemetery/funeral home combination, which will provide convenience by having everything at one location, as well as being able to offer additional benefits to the families being served by Twiford Funeral Homes. Twiford states the grand opening is targeted for mid 2011. Twiford Funeral Homes, LLC, Cemeteries and Crematorium is a local family owned business that has served the area communities since 1933 with four funeral homes, two cemeteries and a crematory.

Twiford Funeral Homes Launches New Website

David Twiford, owner of Twiford Funeral Homes has just launched his new website. The new, innovative website is user friendly and is designed with the goal of the Northeastern North Carolina community to have quick access to funeral service information and allow the family and friends to share in the grieving process by adding condolences and tributes and watching memorial tribute videos and even a video replay of the funeral service if the family wishes to.

https://www.twifordfh.com

As David Twiford added, “Our new website takes our business to the next level in keeping up with the latest online resources for our community. Part of this change is that our new website has put the power of Google to allow members of the community to instantly search for funeral information of a recently deceased friend or relative. Plus there are many other tools to for the public including our online grief video series.”

Personalizing a Funeral Service

A funeral can and should be as unique as the life that is being celebrated. Don’t feel that you have to have a cookie cutter type of service or that your ideas for a special ceremony are foolish.

You shouldn’t feel pressured or rushed into making a decision. We want to help you make
the arrangements that you want.

Personalizing a funeral or memorial service can be very therapeutic–it gives you and your family something to concentrate on as you relive memories. It’s also welcomed by family and friends attending a visitation or service because it gets them involved and provides a topic of conversation when they might otherwise not know what to say. We offer many ways to personalize a service.

Ask questions and make suggestions; we want to assist you in any way we can to ensure that your loved one is memorialized in a meaningful way.

Coping Through the Holidays After Losing a Loved One

Halloween barely passes before stores stock their shelves with holiday decorations. Christmas carols echo through shopping malls, and the first of the holiday commercials hits the airwaves. If you’ve lost a loved one, these can be stark reminders that the holidays won’t be the same.

Whether your loved one died recently or decades ago, the holidays bring forth powerful memories that may trigger your grief. If the person died on or near a holiday, the two events are forever linked and may be particularly painful, especially if you have unresolved feelings about the lost relationship.

When trying to cope with grief, it’s important to understand that grief is cumulative. We don’t experience a loss, move through predetermined emotional stages, then emerge on the other side.

This holiday season, if the first Christmas card you open or the first “Happy Hanukkah!” you hear starts to bring on sadness, use that opportunity to work through your feelings. Don’t just ignore those feelings. Here are some tips to help you cope.

DO:

  • Expect to have some pain. When the feelings come, let them.
  • Accept a few invitations to be with close family or friends. Choose the ones that sound most appealing at the time and avoid the ones that feel more like obligation.
  • Talk about your feelings. Let people know if you’re having a tough day.
  • Incorporate your loved one into the holidays:
  • Share your favorite stories over dinner.
  • Make a toast or light a candle in remembrance.
  • Make a donation in his or her name.
  • Help others:
    • Take a meal to a homebound couple.
    • Volunteer in a shelter or soup kitchen.
    • “Adopt” a family to buy presents or food for.
  • Modify or make new traditions if it feels right. Just remember to include others who are grieving, especially children, in the decision.
  • If the idea of holiday shopping overwhelms you, buy gifts online or through catalogs.
  • Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
  • Prepare yourself for January. Sometimes the aftermath of the holidays can bring more sadness than the holidays themselves.

DON’T:

  • Don’t hide your feelings from children in an effort to be strong for them or protect them. You’ll only be teaching them to deny their own feelings.
  • Don’t isolate yourself. Although you may not feel much like celebrating, accept a few invitations.
  • Don’t accept every invitation or throw yourself into work in an effort to keep busy. It may only add more stress.
  • Don’t expect to go through defined stages of grief. Every person is different and every relationship is unique.
  • Don’t act as if your loved one never lived.
  • Don’t be afraid to cry. Crying is like the valve on a pressure cooker. It lets the steam out.

If someone you know is grieving:

  • Encourage him or her to talk about their feelings. Listen to them. 98 percent of people who have recently lost someone want to talk about the person who died.
  • Let them cry.
  • Don’t pretend their loved one didn’t die – it’s okay to say the deceased’s name.
  • Don’t say things like:
    • “At least he’s not suffering anymore”
    • “She’s in a better place.”
    • “I know you’ll miss him.”
    • “I know how you feel.”

Resources:

Grief Recovery Institute®
www.grief-recovery.com
(818) 907-9600
Holiday Hotline: (800) 445-4808

Fernside
www.fernside.org
(513) 841-1012

National Funeral Directors Association
www.nfda.org
(800) 228-6332 or (262) 789-1880

GriefNet.org
www.griefnet.org

Books:

  • “The Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce and Other Losses” by John W. James and Russell Friedman
  • “I’m Grieving As Fast As I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal” by Linda Sones Feinberg
  • “Gone but Not Lost: Grieving the Death of a Child” by David W. Wiersbe
  • “Remembering With Love: Messages of Hope for the First Year of Grieving and Beyond” by Elizabeth Levang, Sherokee Ilse
  • “Life Is Goodbye, Life Is Hello: Grieving Well Through All Kinds of Loss” by Alla Renee Bozarth, et al.
  • “When Your Friend Is Grieving: Building a Bridge of Love” by Paula D’Arcy
  • “How Can I Help?: How to Support Someone Who Is Grieving” by June Cerza Kolf
  • “Healing Your Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas” by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
  • “Helping Your Grieving Heart for Teens” by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
  • “The Grieving Teen: A Guide for Teenagers and Their Friends” by Helen Fitzgerald
  • “When Children Grieve” by John W. James and Russell Friedman with Dr. Leslie Landon Matthews
  • “The Grieving Child: A Parent’s Guide” by Helen Fitzgerald, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
  • “35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child” by The Dougy Center for Grieving Children
  • “Nobody’s Child Anymore: Grieving, Caring and Comforting When Parents Die” by Barbara Bartocci

Consider Family in Cremation

Those who say–whether seriously or in jest–“Just cremate me and throw me out!” don’t realize the burden this places on family members. Direct disposal of cremated remains without funerals or memorialization of any kind can cause serious emotional problems for survivors.

An executive of the Forum for Death Education tells of one patient under therapy as a result of scattering the cremated remains of a loved one. She had no focal point for her grief until he suggested she obtain a niche at a local mausoleum and place some memento of the loved one within.

In day-to-day contact with bereaved families, many cemetarians have noticed signs of severe emotional stress among the survivors in instances of cremation without memorialization and without funerals.

In some cases, such problems may take the form of delayed reaction many months later and are more apt to come to the attention of the medical community or clinical psychologists than to the layman or the general public.

Many psychiatrists feel that the funeral serves a very real need for the survivors. One of them stated that the primary purpose of the funeral is to fulfill the need for grieving for the living and that this need goes unfulfilled for many in our culture.

The result, in many cases, is that months or years later people require psychiatric treatment for severe depression.

In suffering a loss, the traditional rites of passage and memorialization can be beneficial in helping individuals pass through the stages of grief.

When the practice of cremation is accomplished with human dignity and recognition, it will:

  • help assuage grief
  • alleviate guilt
  • contribute to emotional stability
  • create peace of mind
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